Despite its practical veneer, this piece is pure Mystique. An “expert,” meaning a professional magazine writer, advises fussy American single women to quit shilly-shallying and pick someone already. It’s no surprise that such advice would appear in a time of worsening economic prospects for women, nor is it out of character for the Mystique to stick its nose where it does not belong–in the lives of women the author has never met yet still feel competent to advise. Naturally, men are not subject to hectoring about their personal lives.
Settling isn’t for everyone. I tried a marriage to Mr. Not Quite Right and wound up having no sex for eight years. I need chemistry as well as competence, and I do not need to struggle under a man’s sense of entitlement to my labor, body and psyche. Mieux vaut seul que mal accompagné–it is better to be alone than in bad company.